Iâm a cishet woman, married twenty years, three kids at home. My marriage is generally happy but itâs also sexless. Being âcompanionateâ was his decision, not mine. The absence of sex is driving me crazy, so my husband has given me his blessing to get sex elsewhere. It's tricky, though, as itâs hard for me to be sexually attracted to someone without feeling a special connection. I've tried the apps, but the thought of discussing the mechanics of sex with someone Iâve just me on Hinge or Bumble or whatever leaves me cold.
The thing is, I periodically develop crushes on male colleagues. I work in a project-based industry where everyone works on three-to-four-month contracts. We come together, work hard, get to know each other quickly, and then head off to new jobs. So, fucking someone I met at work feels like the perfect solution. And there is currently a...
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Workmate Only Wonderland
On the one hand⌠your workplace crush could be flirting with you because youâre a married woman with a husband and kids at home and he assumes your marriage is monogamous â most straight marriages are â and regards flirting with you as harmless because 1. he hasnât been paying attention to evolving standards of workplace conduct and 2. he doesnât think there could be any repercussions, personal or professional, because [see 1] and youâre a married woman, WOW, and so nothing sexual and/or dramatic and/or actionable can happen. On the other hand⌠your workplace crush could be flirting with you because he wants to fuck you and he may even have his wifeâs okay to fuck other people â he may, like you, have the hall pass he needs â but heâs kept the flirting within the zone of plausible deniability because 1. he actually has paying attention to evolving standards of workplace conduct and 2. he doesnât know if youâre allowed to fuck other people and doesnât want to cause drama or accidentally blow your life up.
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